Parenting is the hardest job in the world...and you get little or no training for it!
We do the best that we can but often it doesn't seem to be good enough. And the scariest thing of all is that if we get it wrong, then our kids have to live with it for the rest of their lives!!
I need to try very hard to step away from tense situations, and calm down before moving forward. Otherwise things just escalate and then we all end up feeling awful. I can really see how being mindfully present could help, but actually doing it is a whole different ball game. I can see how compassion and understanding could help, but in the heat of the moment it is so hard to see anyone else's point of view.
But if I don't try, try and keep on trying, then how can I expect my babies to learn compassion and understanding? How can I teach them to be loving, tolerant human beings if I don't act that way myself?
I'm being hard on myself tonight because I am angry with myself for losing my temper. It only makes things worse, and I can see that!!
So, today I am grateful that after a good night's sleep, I get a whole new 24 hours to try again to get it right, or at least do it better!!!
Gratefully yours.
xx
No training...and no ongoing guidance...and no right or wrong!! Don't beat yourself up...if the world had only parents like you it would be a much, much better place! To quote Gerry Rafferty (am I showing my age? 70's Scottish singer/songwriter) "if you get it wrong, you get it right next time" cos it's all about learning from experience - reflect and move on! xxx (You rock!!)
ReplyDeleteYes, don't worry too much. We've all been there, lost our tempers and been angry with ourselves. You already have kind,caring children who will be good citizens so you've done ok so far and after all no-one is perfect - parents, grandparents or children! xx
ReplyDeleteBeing self aware enough to know you could improve is the hardest and most important step. We all lose our temper and have our patience tested in life and most frequently by our kids....and while these times are challenging they are few in comparison to the happy/funny/cuddly......times xx
ReplyDeleteHear hear to all of the above. Your children are an absolute delight, as are you xx
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